The Big Turkey Day

Now that I have a platform to express my thoughts I’d like to take some time to break down what I am thankful for in my life in celebration of Thanksgiving 2018. As a child I was not really interested in the being thankful part of the holiday. The food was the main attraction at this point in my life, but can you really blame me for that? 

Being thankful is a natural thing for an emotionally normal person. But as a kid you aren’t really thinking about being thankful. This is coming from someone who comes from a poorer family. The life I lived was the only life I knew. I didn’t really comprehend that things could be worse. I didn’t see the struggles of other kids my age or at least I ignored them.

Being out of high school now, I’ve come to learn more about the world. Learning more about how the world functions, learning more about people, and learning more about yourself is hard. It’s hard to see how people suffer and how much better off you are than others. I’ve come to be thankful for the things I have. It’s a lot to be thankful for for some and absolutely minimal for others but it is what I am thankful for and that is all that matters.

Who raises you and how you are raised is the most important thing in this entire world. It determines your way of thinking, your work ethic, and the advantages you will have in the future. Having met plenty of people, friends and family, that grew up in dysfunctional households, I have come to realize how lucky I am for who raised me. I’ve been raised by my mom and my step-dad. Don’t take the step part seriously though because this man is the only father I’ve ever known. 

My parents have made it clear that they will support me in anything I want to do. This is one of the reasons I grew the courage to start writing. If they had raised me with specific goals in mind for me maybe I wouldn’t be where I am today. They always made sure I had a roof over my head and food on the table. My mother even worked two jobs periodically throughout her life to take care of my two brothers and I. My dad was a mostly stay at home dad but would work his butt off when he got the chance. He’d kill for any one of us and that is somewhat rare these days surprisingly. I am so thankful I will have a little bit of both of them in me when I become a father someday. 

“A father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be.” – Frank A. Clark

I realized fairly quickly that school wasn’t for me. Not to say I wasn’t smart enough, but the public school system is just not how I learn. I’ve always been good at school especially in English. Without the guidance of my parents I would have definitely dropped out. I am beyond thankful to them for this. A high school diploma is such a basic part of life but is so important to your future because without one you don’t even have the option to further your education at a university or a community college. 

My parents had one goal for me growing up. They have been preaching it to me my entire life so far and thankfully so. They want me to have as many options as I want. If I want to go to college, I have a diploma now. “Take this part time job for now so you’ll have money to move somewhere you can follow your dream”. “The military is always a fall-back option”. Saying things like these has kept my mind open about my future. It has helped me realize that the future truly is mine to mold and shape to my liking. Nobody can take any of that from me unless I let them.

I love my parents and am thankful for them everyday for the struggles they have been through to make my life the best that they could. I’m thankful that they made sure that I knew how to be happy with myself and my future because I control that. I encourage everyone to look back at the way they were brought up and how it has affected them now and before. Maybe it is not who raised you that has made you see new things in life. Friends can be the family you never had and that is okay. Just take the time to make sure they know that you appreciate them for that. They won’t be here forever.

One Reply to “The Big Turkey Day”

  1. These are the most beautiful, encouraging, and loving words I’ve ever read. I’m so proud to know that you are my son. I’m thankful for you and your brothers every day. Truthfully, you are what makes my life beautiful and worth every sacrifice I’ve ever made. You should know that no matter where you go or what you do in life, I will always be your most loyal fan. I love you with all that I am! Love, Mom

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